Non reproductive.. What is it? What its motives?
The concept of childlessness has developed recently, especially in difficult economic and social circumstances, and other reasons that made many individuals adopt this idea.
But what is the concept of Non reproductive? and what causes that motivate individuals to adopt this thought?
What does childlessness mean?
it is the individual’s rejection of the idea of procreation, his unwillingness to give birth to a child to life may face many difficulties and suffer from things he cannot afford, A non-reproductive person believes that having a child into the world is a kind of selfishness because the benefits that parents get from having a child are much greater than the child’s own. And these people may have great difficulty finding a partner who agrees with this thinking. And they have more difficulty with the pressure of a society that definitely rejects this thought.
People who are not reproductive see life as not a safe place to bring in other people, Because of life’s injustice and harm, but there are some people who say that is merely justification in subconscious to satisfy their conscience, but they originally don’t want to take responsibility so they invent these arguments to escape them.
Non-reproductive people’s motives for adopting this idea
There are a multiplicity of motives for persons who are not reproductive in their unwillingness to have a child, the most important of these motives are:
1. Selfishness: They see it as selfish to have a child living in a life full of diseases, epidemics and harassment, and find no obvious reason to have a child who is going through all this pain, and they think there is no compelling reason to bring a new being from the comfort of non-existence to the trouble of existence.
2. Not Feeling Maternal Instinct: Most people believe that all girls inherently have maternal instinct and love for having children but the truth is the opposite, there are girls who don’t feel that instinct, who see that having a child as a difficult task they cannot afford, and that it may disrupt them on their career path.
3. Environmental drivers: Some see reducing the number of human beings as mitigating their car emissions, machines and needs that affecting on the atmosphere.
4. Economic factors: Among their motivations for deciding not to give birth are the world’s difficult economic conditions, problems such as poverty and insufficient natural resources, so continuing to procreate will cause huge population crowding, which they see as unnecessary.
The reasons for the popularity of this idea from a psychological point of view
The development of this idea in the mind of many young people certainly has a psychological reference in childhood or things that have been influenced by parents.
One of the main reasons why this idea exists in the mind of some young people is:
1. The absence of a sense of psychological and societal security for these young people.
2. Not being able to take responsibility, or adhering to any family ties or restrictions.
3. Growing up in an abnormal society as a result of disintegrated family circumstances.
4. Some may have problems with anti-social personality disorders and narcissism because they only care about themselves.
How to deal with a non-reproductive partner?
It is necessary to agree on that point before marriage to avoid disagreements that may occur because of this.
it is important to talk about it in a decent manner until reaches to the solution that is acceptable to both parties, by:
1. Talk clearly and transparently: both parties have to talk openly and clearly about what they think about reproduction, and about the reasons for rejecting the idea.
2. Not to attempt to take that decision alone, such as taking any contraceptive without telling the partner, as this is considered a breach of trust between the partners.
3. Ignore the pressure of parents and society.
4. Looking for compromise solutions, this requires extreme flexibility on both sides.
5. Seeking specialized counselling: One of the reasons for the decision not to procreate may be the partner’s exposure to some trauma in childhood, which has left him not feeling safe psychologically or socially.
So, you can consult with Dr. Mona Reda, a psychiatric consultant to talk comfortably about everything that exhausted you to live a more stable life.
