Men’s first sexual experience
There are a lot of talk about women’s first sexual experience and the problems they face in sexual relations and how to confront them, but the first sexual experience of men and the problems they can face in intimacy are rarely talked about. As some men feel nervous for their first time of sex because it’s planned and they’re waiting for a great performance, sex for the first time is associated with masculinity.
The most important misconceptions about men’s sexual experience are:
1. Guys should know exactly what they’re going to do
It’s realistic that the first sexual experience is predominantly explored, and no one should be expected to know thoroughly about everything to do, so it is realistic that both partners explore this together, but unfortunately not everyone adopts this approach in dealing with the first sexual experience. This increases stress, anxiety, and pressure. Also, the man feels that he is on a mission that he wants to accomplish to improve his image. On the other hand, mothers sit with their daughters to teach them everything about sex.
2. Men only care about women’s bodies
It is wrong information: both men and women search for the right qualities in their life partner, which creates interest, love, affection, and understanding. Surely a woman’s appearance plays a very important role, but that’s not just the focus of intimacy.
3. Men are so excited to perform sex for the first time
Most people think that all men are excited to perform sex for the first time, but there are some men who get stressed and worried about having sex for the first time. Sexual practices are supposed to be fun, and it reduces stress and anxiety. There is a state of anxiety during and after sex, which lead to difficulties in sexuality, thereby entrenching disturbing ideas and entering a vicious circle, focusing on sexual performance as if it were an insult to another person. And a critically assessable performance that doesn’t make you feel fun does worry you. Some men use steroids and medication to allay that anxiety without medical consultation, but taking such different drugs to treat temporary problems firmly decreases sexual performance rather than pleasure and surely has long-term negative effects.
4. Men don’t enjoy oral sex like women
There is a belief that men do not enjoy oral sex like women, but it is not true. Some men still lack some basic skills or worry about their abilities, but for the majority of them, it seems like a very intimate and exciting experience. Studies have suggested that 93% of young people say oral sex is very fun, which is good news because 95% of women say receiving oral sex is fun and exciting.
5. Men don’t need romance; they just care about sex.
Men need women to make them feel desired, loved, and to seek warmth and tenderness through kind words, hugs, and romantic caresses. Women should not overdress as romantic words and they should show men the feelings they need. But that does not make women neglect the sexual aspect. There is no doubt that men need love but at the same time, they are not looking for platonic love and marital relationships away from sexual relationships. The success of marriage lies in mutual love and sexual consent between the two partners
Feel free to contact Dr. Mona Reda, Marriage Relations Consultant, for a more stable married life.
